Today, Jenny Owen Youngs, whose music I am a big fan of, and is also someone I would consider a friend, penned an essay for Everyone Is Gay announcing that she is gay. Actually, “super gay.”
I hope I am not betraying any of her trust saying this, but a few weeks ago, we talked on the phone for almost an hour about her struggle to come out and whether or not it was something worth doing. I never told her this, but after we hung up, I sat in a chair, and stared out the window for an hour, just thinking. She gave me a shit-ton of stuff to mull over. Stuff that, as a dumb ol’ straight dude, I had never really thought to identify with. This is saying something because I never usually think about anything for more than 5 seconds and usually that thing is “I want nachos.” But I took the things Jenny said about being a gay person with a public profile and internalized them and then digested them in my own way (I blasted Limp Wrist for the rest of the day).
The essay she wrote is very Jenny. It is heartfelt and beautiful but at the same time makes references to Buffy the Vampire Slayer. If you have had any struggle with your sexual identity (or also enjoy the acting of David Boreanaz), I strongly suggest that you read it (below) and hope that it provides inspiration for you. Jenny’s non-stop DIY ethos has been something I’ve long admired and now this just adds a new level of admiration.
Jenny, if you are reading this, you are a fucking badass and I love you.
<3 <3 <3